Why I never fade-to-black for sex scenes
When people find out I write romance they usually lower their voices then ask “Is it like the sweet stuff?” And I’ll lower my voice and whisper, “Well, the love stories are sweet, but the sex scenes are steamy.” At that point they either walk away flustered, giggle but change the topic or grin at me and ask for my business card.
I write both m/f and m/m couples, but the reason why I write romance novels doesn’t change regardless of who my main characters are. My favorite thing about writing romance is that for each new set of characters I get to watch them fall in love. How cool is that? It’s such an amazing time in any new relationship. It’s exhilarating, nerve wracking, exciting, scary, intense, passionate. Seriously, what’s not to like? It’s a rush. Being unable to stop daydreaming about the person…wanting to be with them all the time…wondering if by some miracle they actually feel the same way about you…then finding out, yes, they do. *sighs* Love it.
Of course, when you find the guy or gal of your dreams and you fall in love, you usually kinda wanna touch them. And kiss them. And that’s where the sex part of my books becomes extremely relevant to the type of stories I choose to write. I often compare it to telling a friend about a fabulous new restaurant. You wouldn’t call your friend up and say “I had the most amazing meal of my life. The place was gorgeous with tall ceilings and candlelight, the menus were hand written in beautiful calligraphy, and each plate that came out looked like a work of art!”….and then not tell them what you had for dinner. If you didn’t describe the food, all that build up would leave them hanging. It’s the same with romance and sex. I’m not going to spend countless pages telling you how attracted a couple is to each other, how sexy they find each other, how much they long for each other, then when they finally get together not tell you what happens. That’s the good stuff. That’s what everyone’s been waiting for. All the heart-pounding nervousness, all the daydreams, all the does-he/she-feel-the-same-about-me is all build up to the couple finally exploring their passion for one another. And I’m not about to close the door on that!
The way characters are in intimate scenes—giving, loving, dominant, shy, worried, carefree—tells you so much about them, both as individuals and as they relate as a couple. I love writing those scenes, those moments, to see how they are when they’re finally together. It doesn’t stop with the first time either. If you have sex after a big argument it’s different than sneaking off for a quickie because you’re both in the mood and it’s different still from spending a lazy morning in bed together that turns frisky. Sex scenes are ideal, unique ways to get glimpses of the characters that you might not otherwise see. They’re important details about the emotional and physical relationship. That’s why I write the steamy stuff. (That and it’s fun to write.)
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Title: Moment of Impact (Book 1 of the Moments In Time Series) Author: Karen Stivali Length: 33.000 words / 140 pages (novella) Genre: New Adult, contemporary romance, gay romance, M/M Publisher: Dreamspinner Press
Outside Collin Fitzpatrick’s dorm room is a dangerous place. Beyond his door the students of his small, conservative college think he’s straight, as does his Catholic family who’d disown him if they learned the truth. Inside, he’s safe with his incredibly sexy roommate Tanner D’Amico. Their room makes a perfect place to hide away and fall in love. The moment they cross the line from roommates to lovers, Collin becomes caught between their heavenly passionate encounters and the hellish reality that someone might find out and destroy everything. Tanner’s not used to being so confined, and wants to show the world how much he loves Collin. But Collin’s not sure he’s ready for the impact stepping outside will make.
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About the author
Karen Stivali is a prolific writer, compulsive baker and chocoholic with a penchant for books, movies, and fictional British men. She’s also the multiple award-winning author of contemporary and erotic romances. Her lifelong fascination with people has led her to careers ranging from hand-drawn animator, to party planner, to marriage and family counselor, but writing has always been her passion. Karen enjoys nothing more than following her characters on their journey toward love. Whether the couples are m/f or m/m, it’s guaranteed that Karen’s novels are filled with food, friendship, love, and smoking hot sex—all the best things in life.
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